Last week, we followed Peter’s inner transition as he struggled through a crisis of faith. Jesus, the One who knew Peter’s faith story from beginning to end, guided him through times of confidence and despair into a deep faith that would carry him through his life. This week, we’re shifting to some relationship transitions as we observe a family in transition, both within their relationships and their relationship with God. We’ll see three ways women and men can transition into thriving worshipers of God via the relational transitions they face.
Thank you for taking the time to do this Bible study. When we dig deeper into God’s word, He promises to bless us. We follow in the footsteps of King David, who wrote in Psalm 119:105: “Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light on my path.
This guide will provide a weekly framework for spiritual conversations with friends or family. We encourage you to reach out to a friend or two, pick a time to get together each week, and work through this guide together. This Bible study can also be a good tool for families, perhaps coordinated with mealtimes.
In Genesis 29-30, the narrative follows Isaac and Rebekah’s son, Jacob, as he transitions into adulthood and gets married. Jacob moves from his parent’s home to a different country, where he meets the two sisters who will become the mothers of his children. He also meets his match in his uncle, Laban, his mother's brother, who would become his father-in-law. With the promise of God to his father, Isaac, and his grandfather, Abraham, ringing in his ears, Jacob struggled in his family relations throughout his life and strived to attain the blessing of God by his means. Jacob’s story is full of twists and turns where change is painful and difficult. But, God is steady and faithful throughout the ups and downs of Jacob’s life. His love extended to Jacob’s family, and through this flawed family, God’s love reached out to the whole world through their descendent, Jesus Christ.
Read Genesis 29-30.
How does Jacob meet Rachel? What made her attractive to him? According to the story, how does Jacob meet Leah? What did Jacob find unattractive about her? How would you describe Jacob’s relationship with his father-in-law, Laban? What do you think of this family and their relationships with each other? Their story is quite dramatic, almost as if it were a soap opera! How successful do you think their lives together would have been if you knew these people?
One thing holds this family together: God and His promise of blessing. God’s presence and faithfulness guide and protect the story of His people in all times and places. In this particular story, God intervenes in the family dynamic to bless Jacob, Leah, and Rachel at various times. Underline or circle the times God appears in the narrative. How many blessings can you count from the story? Make a list of them.
In this story, difficulties arise from in-laws, sibling rivalry, first and second wives, insecurity and pride about physical appearance, infertility, surrogate mothers, and business competition/schemes. Do these things sound familiar? Have you experienced problems in these areas? We can trace the activity of God in the lives of Jacob, Leah, and Rachel and see how He used the hardships of their relationships to steer His will and bring each one to greater faith in Him. In so doing, God expanded this family and fulfilled His promise to bless the entire world through them. Reading this story today, we see that these Old Testament figures played a part in a much bigger plan. God can work the same way in our lives and families too. Have you seen God bless others through your family? Can you think of a time when you wanted to give up on your familial relationships because they were too hard? If you stayed together, did you experience growth in your faith?
The changes in Leah’s relationship with God are marked by the names she gives to her children. Write down their names and what they mean. What clues do you see in the progression of her faith in God? Her transition into a life of faith emerged out of the rejection she experienced because of her physical appearance. This led to frustration and emotional pain because she did not feel her husband's love. She also competed with her beautiful sister and endured the physical pain of childbirth.
His direct encounters with God mark the changes in Jacob’s relationship with God. Jacob was the only one in the family who encountered God in person. These meetings provided the foundation for his faith and belief that God intended to use him to bless the world. Jacob and his mother believed God’s promise that God had chosen to bless Jacob, the younger of her twins and his line, and not his older brother Esau (Genesis 25:23). Their faith in this promise was incomplete, however. They believed in the promise but did not have enough faith to trust God to fulfill it for and through them. And so they conspired to lie and scheme to get Jacob his rightful blessing. In spite of this huge misstep, God continued to bless and meet with Jacob to confirm His promise. In fear of his brother Esau’s wrath, Jacob fled to his mother’s family back in Harran (Genesis 27:41-28:5). On the way, God met him at Bethel, and Jacob worshiped God (Genesis 28:10-22). There God established a relationship with Jacob and promised He would go with Jacob, bless him, and safely bring him back to Canaan. When God spoke with Jacob next, He told him it was time to return (Genesis 31:3). So, along with his wives, concubines, and children in tow, they went.
Rachel’s transition involves moving away from a dependence on the men in her life who mediated her relationship with God to know God for herself. We meet Rachel when Jacob arrives in her hometown. Her father, Laban, didn’t let her stay home and live a life of luxury. She took care of his sheep. Laban seems to have prized Rachel for the benefits that her beauty and body could bring to him, and so he allowed Rachel to be the wages of Jacob’s labor for seven years. Laban didn’t keep his part of the bargain and tricked Jacob into working another seven years for him when he switched his daughters on Rachel’s wedding night. Laban controlled the destinies of his daughters. So Rachel got married and became the second wife of a man who loved her more than her sister. But, as with many women in the Bible, she could not become pregnant. She had to watch while her sister had four sons. She complained to her husband and demanded him to help. This angered Jacob, who understood that God was behind her barrenness. Rachel then started a one-upmanship with her sister that involved their maids as surrogate mothers. Rachel’s jealousy of Leah and her vindictiveness bear themselves out in the names of the sons her maid gave Jacob. But then God deals directly with Rachel. After Leah gave Jacob 10 sons, in Genesis 30:22, we read that God remembered Rachel. He listened to her and enabled her to have a son. Rachel was grateful, but she wanted more sons, perhaps to match her sister’s brood. When Jacob told them about God and the promises made to him for His blessing, Rachel and Leah left with him to go back to Canaan. But, Rachel stole her father’s household gods and brought them along with her. We don’t hear from Rachel again until Jacob and the family are back in Canaan. Rachel died giving birth to her second son, Benjamin (Genesis 35:16-19), at a place called Bethlehem. We know this town because it is where our Lord Jesus was born. Rachel’s faith journey involved frustration, tears, being mistreated as a sexual object, pain, and death. Much of her sad story was caused by the men in her life. But, in the end, God was faithful to her and helped her live out her purpose.
Under the guise of wanting to see God’s promises fulfilled, the members of this family scheme, manipulate, and try to receive God’s blessing with all their might. God blesses them in spite of themselves. The prerequisite for His blessing is that they would choose Him as their one God. Throughout, the primary mover and designer of blessings is God, who writes the story of this family, warts and all, into the story of His people, Israel. We learn from this story that God uses and even blesses women and men who were not necessarily very good husbands, wives, parents, or business people. If they had only waited for God to accomplish His work instead of running ahead with their schemes and answers, they would have saved themselves a lot of heartaches. From our standpoint now, however, we can learn that God uses flawed people to accomplish His purposes: people like you and me. May we wait for Him and trust Him before we act.
Prayer: God, thank You for including ornery people like Jacob and his family in Your story. Help me learn from their mistakes. May I trust You and wait for Your promises and blessings to come in their own time. Help my actions and decisions to line up with the timing You have set forth in the big story of Your kingdom coming on earth as it is in heaven. Amen.
Transitions, as we know, are part of life. We experience personal, familial, vocational, cultural, national, and even organizational transitions. In fact, Northland is a church in the midst of change and transition. We have called our new lead pastor, Dr. Josh Laxton. Interestingly, while we experience a myriad of transitions in a lifetime, there is a difference between change and transition. Change is situational whereas transition is psychological. In other words, transition involves processing the change.
Transitions, as we know, are part of life. We experience personal, familial, vocational, cultural, national, and even organizational transitions. In fact, Northland is a church in the midst of change and transition. We have called our new lead pastor, Dr. Josh Laxton. Interestingly, while we experience a myriad of transitions in a lifetime, there is a difference between change and transition. Change is situational whereas transition is psychological. In other words, transition involves processing the change.
After experiencing a change and transition, we can look back and see that we were changed—or better yet transformed. And who you became, the kind of transformation that occurred in that transition was the direct result of how you processed or didn’t process the change.
In this series, Transitions, we will take you on a journey through Scripture looking at various transitions in the life God’s people as well as various passages that deal with how we should process changes in our life. Our hope and prayer in this series is that you will learn how to process the various changes in life and allow the Holy Spirit to use transitions to conform you more into the image of Jesus.
» May 14-15
TRANSITIONS | Transitions for Leaders and Followers | Discipleship Pastor Gus Davies
» May 21-22
TRANSITIONS | Cultural Transitions: From Monoethnic to Multiethnic | Governing Elder Vince Taylor
» May 14-15
TRANSITIONS | Transitions for Leaders and Followers | Discipleship Pastor Gus Davies
» May 21-22
TRANSITIONS | Cultural Transitions: From Monoethnic to Multiethnic | Governing Elder Vince Taylor
This Weekend in The Foyer
Stop by the bookstore’s pop-up shop in the foyer to find the perfect gift or a little treat for yourself!
Sunday, May 15 at 11 a.m.
In as little as a couple of hours a month, you can make a significant difference to those families that care for foster children. This short class will explain the challenges of fostering and describe a way for you to become part of the solution.
Thursday, May 12 at 7 p.m.
Matthew West is a five-time GRAMMY® nominee, a multiple ASCAP Christian Music Songwriter/Artist of the Year winner and a 2018 Dove Award Songwriter of the Year (Artist) recipient.